Author: Wallace Peck

 

 

Say, you confess your love to an old friend or an acquaintance. He or she, however, awkwardly informs you that the feeling isn’t mutual. Now, what will you do?

Being in the center of that situation can bring out a lot of emotions, which are undoubtedly damaging at most. It’s already embarrassing to hear the rejection when it’s only the two of you in the same room. But in case you turned the confession into too huge of a deal and did it in front of the people you both know, then your world may just shatter into a billion pieces.

Despite the hurt that unrequited love comes with, however, you should be thankful that the man or woman of your affection was honest with you. Although getting rejected is hard, nothing can still beat getting cheated on or abandoned.

The road to recovery is rough, not just because we are struggling with the real loss of a person or a way of life we really loved, but because every painful rejection is fueled by two forces: the actuality of the loss itself and the army of negative, self-loathing thoughts reawakens within us. — Lisa Firestone, Ph.D.

So, try your mightiest to avoid these top mistakes when dealing with unrequited love.

1. Claiming That You’re OK Repeatedly

You can tell stories as much as you like about how well you are after the failed confession, yet even the stray bird that possible saw the event unfold knows that you are far from being OK. Be honest about it, and don’t be afraid to cry if that will lighten up your mood.

2. Staying Close To The Person Who Denied Your Feelings

The regular statement of someone who just rejected another human being is: “I hope we can still be friends.” For sure, it may happen, but you need to get away from him or her first so that the healing process can begin.

3. Listening To Sad Love Songs

While it is quite addictive to play tunes about unrequited love, some of the lyrics may only let your mind wander toward the pain and the what-ifs. Your emotions may subside faster once you listen to upbeat songs instead.

We don’t always win the heart of the person we pursue and we don’t always get the job we want, either. Not everyone is going to be chosen for the team and not every social situation is going to turn out the way we would like. — Suzanne Degges-White Ph.D.

4. Obsessing About The One-Sided Love

Talking about your broken heart is acceptable if the ordeal is still fresh. Considering a year already passed, and you’re continuously posting or tweeting regarding that experience on social media, then that’s an obsession you have to quit immediately.

5. Being Angry At The Person Who Rejected You

Regardless of how terrible the dismissal is for you, you can’t get mad at that guy or lady who did it, especially if they said the words in a respectful manner. It isn’t their fault that you like them or they don’t like you. You’re just not meant to be, that’s all.

6. Having No Other Plans

Another mistake that an individual blinded by love can commit is going in the battle with a single plan. Once that occurs, you may catch yourself doing the most absurd stuff, such as partying till you drop and going down with depression. That’s why it’s significant to have a strategy in motion in case you end up with unrequited love.

7. Continuing To Worship That Boy/Girl

The scenario wherein a person dismisses someone’s feelings and then turns around to take it back only happens in movies. In reality, a no means a no. Hence, you should focus on moving on and stop waiting for him or her to love you.

Regularly finding healthy outlets for yourself is key to successfully navigating daily challenges and maintaining emotional health. — Marni Amsellem, PhD

There are many things that you have to keep in mind when it comes to handling stress. First of all, you must understand that managing stress can be challenging in the beginning. However, once you become a master of how to handle your emotions, everything will become a lot easier on your part. Make sure that you know how to do things the right way so that you can become a better person, despite the stress that you are feeling inside.

For today’s post, we are going to provide you with some strategies that can help you become better in handling stress. Be sure to familiarize the items listed below:

This might seem counterintuitive, but acceptance and commitment therapy suggests that efforts to stop certain thoughts can have a paradoxical effect. — Kathryn Gordon Ph.D.

Love Yourself

One of the things that you must learn is to love yourself. Learn how to accept your flaws and mistakes. It is only then that you can have the right state of mind to handle stress. Whether you believe it or not, the truth is that you can control everything with the way you think. Because of this, it is best if you will start to fall in love with everything about yourself. The more you admire yourself, the easier it would be on your part to keep going with life.

Be With Friends And Family

Are you aware that one of the reasons why you are constantly stressed is because you started missing out on special events with friends and family? As such, it is time for you to go out of your way to see the people who truly matter in your life. Make time to bond with these individuals because they are the ones who can make you smile. The more moments you share with them, the better you become when it comes to eliminating your stressors.

I think we can all benefit from looking at things in such a way. Who is to say if something is “good” or “bad?” — Ingrid Clayton Ph.D.

Rest And Take A Break

How many hours do you spend a day at work or in your business? Are these hours productive for you, or are they making you stressed out? If you answer the latter choice, then it is about time for you to consider resting. Do not be afraid to take a break for a while because it is what you need to improve your life. Keep in mind that you will eventually get burnt out if you spend a lot of time doing tasks and assignments. Find time to get rest and have fun.

Exercise Regularly

Another thing that you must never neglect is the importance of getting sufficient exercise regularly. As much as possible, find time to do some physical activities. Take note that the human body produces dopamine or happy hormones when you exercise. As a result, you will be in a better mood. At the same time, your mental health will also improve. If this continues to occur or happen for a long period, there is a possibility that you can eliminate stress without you knowing it.

 The key to effective problem solving is to describe a problem in a way that allows you to use your knowledge to solve it. — Art Markman Ph.D.

Follow the techniques mentioned above so that you can let go of your stress and anxiety. Be the best and most amazing version of yourself at all times.

The best way to minimize the risks is to ensure that you know the value that you are bringing to the table and then that you confidently sell this value any chance you get. — Laura E. Buffardi Ph.D.

Being a nail technician seems like an easy job for some people. You get trained to beautify your clients’ nails and sit in an air-conditioned salon every day, after all. You can even make an excellent living out of the tips that customers graciously provide. However, doing people’s nails also entails that you will inevitably turn into their makeshift therapist. A few clients may feel so at ease in your presence, to the extent that they even ask for life advice from you.

Of course, when such things happen, you go with the flow. It is rude to ask customers to shut up because they are technically always right. You do not want to get to their wrong side as well since it means throwing away one of your clients.

Now, in case the typical workday no longer appeals to you, perhaps you should try making your salon mobile.

3 Reasons To Make Your Nail Salon Mobile

You can only find a member of the female population once in a blue moon who has never had her nails done by a professional. Young mothers now turn a manicure and pedicure session into a bonding moment for them and their daughters. They try to set up an appointment at least once a month to make sure that their nails always look fabulous.

Hana does her nails on the train, because every moment counts on her way to improve her family’s fortunes, with her brightly colored nails. — Talya Miron-Shatz Ph.D.

The thing is, you may also discover that more women who are busy taking care of their careers or kids have lesser opportunity to visit the salon for a bit of self-pampering. It is not that they do not want to do that. It is just that there is too much on their plate and going out to allocate at least an hour for their nails sounds impossible for them.

For this reason, there are nail professionals who are starting to put up their mobile nail salon. Here are the top three reasons why you should open one as well.

1. Always Be On The Go

When you have to relocate your establishment, it cannot be guaranteed that your regular customers in the previous location will want to travel to your new place. This is merely impractical to them, especially if there are other nail salons that they can go to nearby. Aside from that, it is no secret that some individuals are always interested in trying new services, regardless if they have been coming to your salon for months.

Nevertheless, if moving to another place means that you have to go back to square 1, you can choose to make your home your headquarters. You can send invitations to your old clients to swing by your house to get their usual manicure and pedicure. You may also turn into an on-call nail technician for customers who don’t have time for that.

2. Garner More Patrons

Take note of the saying that “birds of the same feathers often flock together.” Your customers who ask for home service have friends who like the same thing. You can give your calling card to them so that they can show it to their gal pals anytime they meet. In case you want to ante up the stakes, you can offer a package deal when the ladies decide to hold a nail salon party.

The benefit of doing so is that you will undoubtedly gain more regular clients. The flow of customers may not be as crazy as when you were still working at a typical nail salon. However, as a roving nail ‘therapist,’ you can ensure that the individuals who will get your services are keepers.

Being a leader is being willing to forge a path and hold that space and identifying who would like to follow that path with you. It takes personal integrity, being clear on your values and goals, and serving as a beacon for others. — Mira Brancu, Ph.D.

3. Obtain Profits In Full

The most significant aspect of having a mobile salon is that you are your boss and employee. You do not have to answer to anyone but yourself. If you wish to have a late start, no one will nag you. In case you feel too lazy to go to work today, that is not a problem either.

Consequently, if you work for a company, you may get a percentage for every pair of hands or feet that you beautify, or there is a fixed daily wage. Either way will provide low income, which is highly unsatisfactory if you have been in the salon for eight hours straight.

The latter consists of some of the reasons why nail technicians have started to make their services available in a mobile fashion. Even though you may not be affiliated to a huge salon such as in the past, you can take all of your profits – plus the tip – without needing to turn it over to the employer.

Accept the beautiful changes that life offers to you, and everything will be so much better. Become a roving nail technician today!

Effects Of A Breakup

Breaking up with someone you love can be very challenging to go through in life. It could turn your world upside down while you feel unfortunate, helpless, and hopeless. People deal with breakups differently, according to psychologists. Some would just accept the fact and move on, but others develop depression.

It may seem like your world is falling apart and that you might not be able to move past this hurt. Your emotions are heightened, and you will not be able to feel okay for a while. These are typical symptoms of a breakup, but you have to recognize some signs that might tell you that you have depression.

Continue reading “Managing Depression After A Breakup”

There are a lot of things to take into consideration when it comes to handling addiction. If you have already succeeded in getting over your addictive disorder, then be sure to congratulate yourself for a job well done. According to the 2016 Miami addiction conference, there is always a possibility that an ex-addict can experience a relapse. This is a situation wherein the said person will be tempted to get back to addiction.

 

 

Below is a short list of tips and tricks that you need to remember in case you will encounter an addiction relapse. Be sure to familiarize yourself with these:

 

Remember Why You Quit

 

Whenever you are tempted to get back to being addicted to something, think of the reasons why you quit in the first place. Remind yourself how far you have come so that you can prevent yourself from going back to your old ways.

 

Seek Professional Help

 

Do not hesitate to get in touch with a counselor or therapist who is focused on helping addicts. Always remember that it is okay to seek professional help if it means improving yourself and your condition. Find the best mental health expert in your area. Feel free to ask for recommendations or referrals from your friends.

 

Keep Yourself Busy

 

Another ideal way of dealing with addiction relapse is to find things or activities that can take up your time. As much as possible, be very busy to the point that you can forget about your addiction. Invest your time in meaningful hobbies or try out new things that can make you feel happy. Keep yourself distracted.

 

 

Addiction relapse is something that you can defeat. Do not go back to your old bad habits as it can only make your life more complicated. Instead, focus on getting better.

 

During the 2016 Seattle Mental Health Conference Events, issues and disorders on children were touched. This led me back to the past. I became a Neuro-developmental Pediatrician because of my brother who was special. Actually, he is my stepbrother, and after understanding why he was such, I have come to love him as my own, as if we came from the same womb.

Continue reading “2016 Seattle Mental Health Conference Events – Learning More About ASD”

One of the successful events that I attended two years ago was the 2016 Oregon Health Insight Annual Quality Conference. There are many reasons why I consider the said event as one of my top favorites. I have to say that the learning and experiences I had during the conference changed my mindset about health care.

 

 

As of the moment, I am proud to say that I have become a responsible individual when it comes to taking good care of my health. I want to share my journey with you. However, I would like to focus on the top things that you have to remember when it comes to making your health and wellness as the number one priority in your life. Below are the top ways to take good care of your health:

 

Have A Balanced Diet

 

Learn to be conscious of the food that you take in every meal. As much as possible, avoid unhealthy food choices so that you will not suffer from adverse health conditions. Remember those poor decisions can lead to serious medical problems.

 

Watch Your Stress Levels

 

Never allow anyone or anything to bring out the worst in you. Be smart enough to be mindful about the level of stress and anxiety in your life. Once you notice that you have become too exhausted and stressed, the right thing to do is to rest or take a break. Learn how to recover from anything that makes you feel down.

 

 

Be With The Right People

 

You may not believe it, but the truth is that the people you surround yourself with affect the way you see things. If you spend more quality time with your loved ones, it can improve your health because you will be constantly happy.

 

Keep in mind that the things mentioned above are not exclusive. There are still other healthy options that you have to consider.

 

Aging is undeniably a continuous and unstoppable life cycle process of growing older not only physically but mentally. The aging process poses a possible threat to increase illnesses and associated disabilities like health issues, anxiety and stress that are common nowadays.

Proper treatment of physical and mental health problems with the help of doctors, therapists and mental health professionals with support from family as they grow older will be beneficial for appropriate care of themselves.

Continue reading “Aging And Geriatric Issues – Therapy Needed”

Since many people suffer from an irregular body-clock, there’s the occurrence of inconsistent sleep-wake cycles. Sometimes, it is due to the environment, job requirements, as well as mental and emotional state. Circadian Rhythm Sleep-Wake disorder or also known as “body-clock disorder” can account to many sleep problems such as insomnia, sleep paralysis, health deficiency, and so on.

Sleep is a critical factor in our long-term health and well being: studies show that it can play an important role in extending health and longevity and lack of sleep, in turn, can pose serious health consequences as we age. — Michael J Breus Ph.D.

Types Of Circadian Rhythm Sleep-Wake Disorder

Delayed Phase Sleep Disorder – It is a condition where a person tends to have a hard time getting sleep. Typically, the sleepiness occurs between 1 and 6 am despite the best effort to get some rest and settle down to bed even hours earlier. And because a person falls asleep late, he’s naturally driven to sleep until late morning or early afternoon. Delayed phase sleep disorder becomes a problem when there’s an inflexible duty or task in the morning.

I believe the restoration of more natural rhythmic structures in our lives is a most critical and overlooked component in the treatment of depression. — Rubin Naiman Ph.D.

Advanced Phase Sleep Disorder – A person with advanced phase sleep disorder, on the other hand, experience the opposite. There’s trouble of keeping oneself awake. Most of the time, it’s difficult for him to keep his eyes open and always feel the need to go to bed. Though it may not seem to cause a problem, it does on some people. Let’s say you get home from work and fall asleep on the couch at 7 pm and wake up at 11. There’s a tendency that you won’t be able to go back to sleep until 3 to 4 am. Since the sleeping order becomes choppy, the energy becomes insufficient.

Non-24 Hour Sleep-Wake Disorder – It is a condition where a person has a longer 24-hour body-clock. Usually, an individual suffering from this condition goes to bed later and later every single night. From there, he creates a new set of sleep time-frame where there’s no automatic procedure. The body is not adaptive to any factors such as noise and light. The person with this condition can either choose to be awake or asleep anytime they want.  That’s due to the developed complete day-night reversal.

Shift Work Sleep Disorder – The condition where excessive sleepiness and insomnia affects a person’s daily function. That’s because it overlaps with the typical sleep period one has to complete. Shift workers often sleep in odd hours making them experience insomnia along with other digestive problems. In some studies, shift work sleep disorder can lead to diabetes, different stages of cancer, and other mental health issues.

We can observe the importance of circadian function to human health by the disruption that occurs as a result of crossing multiple time zones (jet lag), and by working at night and sleeping by day (“the night shift”). — Leslie E. Korn Ph.D., MPH, LMHC, ACS, NTP

Jet Lag – Jet lag or clinically known as “desynchronosis” is a collection of symptoms from traveling with different time zones. It is a result of circadian rhythm disruption. It is a condition where time affects the person and ruins its normal sleep cycle. Usually, when an individual has jet lag, his body temperature becomes messed up. Therefore, most functions of his body begin to either explode when reaching high levels of energy or deteriorate when too much in use.

These disorders interrupt the natural progression of sleep which can cause a severe problem in the long run. Primarily, it’s due to disruptive habits and lifestyle factors of the modern world.