In the world of therapy, I could say that some professionals still did not want to leave their comfort zones. What I meant was that they would not go past dealing with people with depression, anxiety, or marital problems. Those were common, and they would not need to challenge themselves too much.
But I was never like that. In truth, when my parents offered to help me set up an office in the city, I was like, “Why don’t you help me create a rehab facility for sex addicts instead?”
People would ask me, “Don’t you fear for your safety whenever you accept potential sex addicts in your office?” The short answer is no.
Are those individuals capable of committing sexual offenses? Possibly. Do they experience more uncontrollable sexual urges than other people? Yes, most likely. However, before I let anyone into my office, I ensure that my clients want to change for themselves and the sake of others. That way, it’s effortless to separate them from folks who are not ready to turn their lives around.
Here’s what happens if we don’t help sexual addicts.
They Get Sued For Sexual Misconduct
Pornography is among the common telltale signs that someone has a sexual addiction. They cannot let a day pass without watching it, no matter where they are or how often they can have sex with their partners. While some people may find it disgusting, it happens to be one of the mildest symptoms of this disorder because the others may get you sued for sexual misconduct – or worse.
For one, some addicts could go as far as hiring prostitutes or escorts, and that’s illegal conduct in various states. Others may have sex in public, and that’s not acceptable either. Worse, they might turn into pedophiles or rapists, which are unforgivable in everyone’s eyes.
They Have Multiple Partners
Another issue with sex addicts is that they cannot ever stick to one partner. No matter how gorgeous or successful or giving their partner is, they still cannot fight the urge to cheat and be with other people. If you ask them why, I doubt they can give you a proper answer because they may not know it.
This lifestyle is perhaps acceptable if you are in a polygamous relationship. However, in most cases, a sex addict tends to lead a double life in which they act as a one-woman man or one-man woman. When the crap hits the fan and their partners find out, things can get crazy.
They Deal With Unwanted Pregnancies
When you have multiple partners, it is not impossible for you to deal with unwanted pregnancies one too many times. If you are a man, you may have relationships with women who want to trap you with a bun in the oven. If you are a woman, you may not know who the father of your unborn child is.
Regardless of your gender, though, unwanted pregnancies lead to more flawed life decisions more often than not. To be honest, I cannot decide about what’s worse than abortion or keeping the baby at that point. If you terminate the pregnancy, you are committing a mortal sin, but the unborn child can have another chance of getting born in a family that wants them. If you don’t terminate the pregnancy, the child may feel unwanted while growing up, which can cause a world of hurt for them.
Worst Of All: They Will Continue In A Destructive Path
Learning from past mistakes is not always a thing with sex addicts. It may work for others, but not for them. The reason is that they are more compulsive than others, so they tend to act before they think if it’s right or wrong.
Because of that, staying undiagnosed almost guarantees that people with sexual addiction will continue doing the same things that they should not have even thought of doing in the first place. It won’t end in a happily ever after – mind you. From what I often hear, the world can be more forgiving towards murderers than sexual offenders.
Does wanting to change entail that the process of healing will be easier than usual? In most of my clients’ cases, it makes them more open to ending their habits and becoming conscious of their thoughts and behaviors. But in terms of “ease,” they still need months to break the chain, so it’s not as easy as you may imagine.
Nevertheless, I should stress that the healing journey will never start if you do not allow yourself to get diagnosed with sexual addiction. If you ever wonder if your sexual behaviors are outside the normal realm and worry about dealing with the issues mentioned above, please see a psychologist or psychiatrist who can recommend you to a therapist like me. It will only be challenging initially, especially when you must accept that you have a mental health problem, but doing so will do you good.